Tuesday, June 07, 2011

Question Of The Week - The Nature vs Nurture Edition

I have a new bloggie friend, whom I was hooked up with via the Book Swap recently.  Kittie Flyn is her name.  Pay her a visit.  You won't be disappointed.

Her post today has related to a lot of what has been on my mind lately.


Weiner (really?......too easy)



We could go on and on.  Men in power who cheat.

Countless books have been written on the difference between men and women.  Men are more visually wired.  Women, more emotional.  You know the drill.  I'm pretty sure we all read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

So, I'm intrigued with - besides the fundamental differences in our creation - what makes men do it?  Have we, as a society, encouraged this behavior?  Think back to Clinton's behavior and where he is today.  Hell, JFK was (and is) adored by women of multiple generations.  Are we too quick to forgive?

I honestly believe that the male ego is simply too infuenced by power and accessibility.  I think that most men........who are put in a position with such prestige.......would end up cheating.  I do.  Especially with the resources they have at their disposal to hide their indiscretions.  I am quite certain that - given the politicians and celebrities that have been uncovered - there are countless more who have not been.

***What are your thoughts?  Do all men of power cheat?  Why or why not?


Dee Stephens said...

I was so disturbed by the news of Weiner yesterday. I thought..seriously? Another one? Yep, Tiger, Arnold, Bill, Edwards and a slew more.
When walking to my car I thought to myself--I wonder if the guy walking in front of me cheats?
What gets me is the men in power and followed by the media that do it. How stupid can they be? I think they're so full of themselves they don't realize that they may not be able to hide it. I read that book The Game Change and everyone had warned Edwards over and over again about Rielle but he wouldn't listen.
The thing that disturbs me the most are the wives and kids. Yet another political wife scorned.
Oh.. yeh.. Can't forget Former SC Gov. Sanford who was 'hiking' the App. Trail. How embarassing for his 4 boys!
Sorry for the rant!

donatelli98 said...

It is amazing but not really. I agree with Dee, I think these men are so full of themselves that they think they can get away with anything. Although, the thing is with all of them getting caught, you would think they would get a clue and realize they may be next. It is disgusting. I don't necessarily think all men in these position cheat. I think if you have a strong group of friends and family who support you but are honest with you and won't put up with excessive arrogance you won't cheat. But those men who only surround themselves with crappy people who idolize them - then that's another story. What annoys me more than anything are the women who stand beside these jerks and act like they are going to fix their marriage. Kudos to people like Elin and Sanford's ex who realize they will be a much better role model to their children by showing they won't put up with it.

Lindsay @ whimsy.girl said...

I just found out that our very close couple friends were divorcing over an affair...an 18 month affair...and you would never know. Actually, the wife was stunned because she was pretty happy in the marraige! Good jobs, 3 precious kiddos and a great life...all to be ruined by a selfish ass! If someone had told me one of our couple friends were going through this, they would be the last ones that crossed my mind. I think affairs are almost accepted in today's society. It makes me sick! It's like people think that if the marraige is not perfect, then they just cheat until the spouse finds out, then they file for divorce. It's sad! It's not just high profile people, it is everywhere...especially in corporate America.

Impulsive Addict said...

Wow. This is getting deep.

I think all men have the potential to cheat but so do women. The man that's cheating is with a woman that knows he's married (well, if they are a well-known person that is). My dad cheated on my mom. Both of my grandpa's cheated on my grandmothers. I'm not sure why.

My boss is currently cheating on his wife (and 5 kids) with a co-worker. I haven't proven it yet but it's happening. As soon as I can prove it, I'm taking a pic, sending it to his sweet wife and quitting. I don't work that often and it's from home. I won't miss the money.

I told M that if I find out that he has cheated, there will be no excuses. I will cut his balls off and put them in a jar on the mantle. And I think he knows I'm crazy enough to do it.

caroline said...

I can see how cheating has a relationship with power, but moreso, I think a person is going to cheat because of a moral deficiency (regardless of status and wealth).

Personally, I don't get it. I know three WOMEN who have cheated on their husbands and have broken up their marriages. Three! Forget the marriage: it destroys a person. Unfortunately, I have seen what it can do to a person, and the worst part is: cheating on your partner makes the partner second guess everything in life - himself, others, everything.

Obviously this is a super sensitive subject for me. Weiner -he's just a hypocrite ass. The women I know who have cheated - aren't far from that.

The Soladay Family said...

People cheat because they are selfish assholes. Point blank. In roles of power or not. People that cheat thrive on the chase. I told you about a friend of mine that while we were having a conversation about cheating, we came to realize that someone we both know cheated on their spouses with the same guy. (make sense?) Classy guy.

Married people with children that cheat are not just cheating on their spouse but their children as well. How are people like Tiger Woods going to face their children when they are older, because fammily secrets always come to surface.

I will say that one thing all cheaters have in common is a sense of entitlement. They fool themselves into believing they have a right to do what they do no matter who it hurts.


starnes family said...

Tiger......duh! How did I forget about him?

If the shoe FITZ said...

I just don't understand how they think they can't/won't get caught. Especially, after others have already been caught. I guess that's where the arrogance comes in.

I know plenty of friends that have cheated and/or have thought about it. It's sad.

I told Fitz if he ever did something like this I would cut off his penis and make his life a living hell. ;)

Sara said...

Cheating is cheating and there's always an underlying reason as to why someone does it. For the guys you mentioned - I think it's because the situation presents itself and they take it. I'm not condoning their behavior AT ALL, but I can't imagine having women throw themselves at my husband all the time. And you know that's what happens with Clinton, Tiger, Arnold, etc.... It's sad that these women don't have the morals to be respectful of someone's marriage. And sad that the men don't have the will power to say no. Very selfish!